Thank you ALL for replies,
When the chips are down it realy helps to hear your voices.
This is a bit of a warts an all moment so for any body sqeumish look away know.
Carol thank you for your post so many on here want to give a positive but your comment about Eric just about summed up my feelings. I try and stay positive for others on here but you told it like it is and I am grateful for that. I would rather hear the worst case scenario and work back wards.
I hope that life is getting easier for you and you are going forward in life. I hear that reduced train fares are in your area π
Trevor dying is something we have lived with for such a long time, from way back with the first heart attack it has been a constant state of high alert and I have to tell you it is exhausting , we have lurched from one emergency to the next.
So many people comment on how well he looks and how well he has done (both of those comments are so true) he looks on the outside as if nothing is wrong. The truth is far from that.
He has defied all expectations and must be made of some strange either plant material or some intergaltic slightly Jamaican , slightly Scottish hy-brid. I am not sure with his ancestry is true.
Sandra your comment about our boys has been the one that has weighed heaviest on my heart, in all of this crazy mess , To be totally honest my scariest moments and worst nightmares are for my boys. When Trevor dies they will still be children, I don't mean to belittle the so many on here that have children of any age, ( they are always our children no matter there age).
The boys are 16 and 11 , James has so stepped up to the plate and taken on so many jobs for me, he know drags in the 15kg sacks of dog food and helps with so much.
He is just about to take his exams and then is going onto take Chemistry, Physics, and maths ( he gets his brains from me).
Zack is realy still a baby at 11 he relies so much on his dad. Such a sweet boy they both understand what is going on but don't want to talk about it, why would they children live in the moment , childhood is wonderful it is a whole different world .
I am going to be totally honest and it is my boys ( I know most mums will understand what I am saying) that I have most worries for, you see they are the future, they will be the ones with the memories of what happened to there dad. Trying to help everyone through our next steps is such a heavy burden.
BFN
Julie X