Panic

Having a shock like this is bound to be a worry for you initially but advising you not to worry is not going to help. We found that reading the information in the Toolkit was helpful because the more we understood about PCa the easier it became to get some perspective and the worry subsided. We were the same as you and your OH. My wife was initially not sleeping I wasn't particularly concerned but talking things through helped her to accept the situation. Your OH is no worse than he was 2 weeks ago and the difference now is that you know he has a problem whereas then you didn't know. Nothing is going to happen overnight to change things and so try not to panic but by just quietly reading the information in the Toolkit on this site you will be doing something constructive and this helps you to feel more in control of things. It will help to fill in gaps for you and point you towards questions you might want to ask when you are given the results you are waiting for.

I hope this helps but I am sure that others will be along to offer their support.

Kind regards

Kevan

Hello Willmay and a belated welcome from me.

That initial shock of diagnosis, especially with no warning symptoms, can really take it out of you and I'm sure must make it worse if you are someone who likes to be in control and know the "whys" and wherefores" .

I speak as one who is much the same!

My husband didn't have symptoms either and his diagnosis was only on the last minute addition to a blood test form by our GP after he went there with a bad back, the origins of which we knew were caused by an accident in the garden.

It is very early days for you both and believe it or not, it will get easier when you get results and confirmations and a treatment plan in place.

Life is never the same again, never normal as it was, but you will adjust to the new normal.

The toolkit is excellent. Don't forget to write down your questions for your consultation and if you can write down the answers. I'm pretty sure that even though there will be both of you in the room, you'll both hear the answers differently - even if it is only in the tone that something is said.

You've found us now, and you know what we are like. Supportive !!

Come back and let us know what the result of the scan is and what treatment is offered. I'm sure that somebody will have the knowledge to advise you.

Best Wishes

Sandra

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I am pleased that you have some positive news about the swallowing issue and hopefully the ENT appointment will then give you both a resolution to the problem.

We are a funny lot and all have our own coping methods so there is no right or wrong way to deal with all of this.I find that I like to read up a bit so that things don't take me by surprise but I don't talk to other people about it. My OH is brilliant and I know she worries and so we have had a chat about the possible results on Monday and what could happen as a result. Whatever the outcome I have already thought it through and will deal with it without any drama. Hopefully the Toolkit will prepare you for possible outcomes which equips you to deal with things without worrying too much. Sounds as though you are a bit calmer now that you have one issue being resolved and once you have the results from the CT scan this will also help. It is generally the unknown that causes people worry so as things progress and you learn more so the worry will subside.

Thank you for your good wishes.

Kevan